“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” Mahatma Gandhi
I don’t know about you, but sometimes Life is just hard. Relationships can be so rewarding! They can also be confusing, frustrating, irritating, and make you question yourself. Sometimes, it’s hard to make sense of what is happening around us and also what is happening within us. During the most challenging times, the journey to make things different, begins with changing ourselves.
Last week, while at yoga, I began by setting an intention to gain Clarity. I was really struggling with some things and I needed to get grounded and calm in my mind. I don’t believe we can make wise decisions when our minds are full of chaos and turmoil. As I sat on my yoga mat, I began to meditate. I was aware of my emotions, and was able to connect with my heart. I allowed myself to feel all of my feelings, without judgment, and there was a lot there! I heard the quote from Gandhi, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” I knew what to do at that moment!
When things feel out of control, when we have conflict in our lives, or when there are issues; oftentimes we focus on wanting other people to change or the circumstances to be different. As a therapist, that is one of the most common things I hear. “If only the other people did things different, then everything would be ok…” or “ I wouldn’t react this way if it weren’t for ___________ behavior/reactions/language, etc.” I think these are the stories we tell ourselves because it is easier than REALLY looking at ourselves and what we bring to the table.
So here is my message: Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” When we don’t like what we are experiencing in our lives, the best place to begin to create change starts with changing ourselves. Whether it is how we are Thinking, what we are Saying, or our Behavior – we must change ourselves. Looking outside of ourselves, never leads to change. It also leaves us powerless and feeling like a victim.
I don’t always like what I see – but I work at practicing compassion and love towards myself so that I can be honest and real with what is going on. When we hold up the mirror, what do we see? This practice of looking at ourselves is essential to growth! The more honest we are with ourselves, the more empowered we are to change what is happening in our life. Be Courageous! Do an honest self-assessment of yourself, make a list of what you are going to be working on and mindful of, and then move forward. With this new understanding and knowledge, you will be able to focus on making today better and different. It all begins with you! Namaste